How Much Should I Be Paying For A Divorce Lawyer?

By |2020-09-07T02:08:26+00:00May 22nd, 2020|Divorce Process|

With new, collaborative divorce tools available, you may not need to hire a lawyer or go to court. If your divorce is likely to be contentious, and you anticipate going to court, competent legal counsel is essential. How much should you expect to pay? How do you know if a lawyer is right for you? Here are some things you should know before you begin your search for a lawyer.  Cost The cost for an attorney ranges from $100 to [...]

Do I Need A Lawyer To Get Divorced?

By |2020-06-10T23:22:09+00:00May 22nd, 2020|Divorce Process|

Divorce is often an emotionally exhausting journey. Legal counsel and courtroom costs can be an added source of stress and difficulty in the divorce process. Many couples seeking a divorce may also fear that involving lawyers and a judge will make the process even more adversarial.    If you and your partner are not in agreement about whether to get divorced, if there are issues of domestic violence, or if your finances are particularly complicated, you will need a lawyer [...]

How to Explain Divorce to a 3-year old

By |2020-08-25T11:50:23+00:00May 22nd, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, featured|

It is daunting to explain the concept of divorce to a child who may not yet fully understand the idea of marriage, let alone divorce. Here are a few things you can do to make learning about divorce --and going through this transition-- easier on your child. Present a united front. It may be tempting to beat your spouse to the punch and tell your side of the story first, but this can make things harder for a child. While [...]

Do Politics Divide You?

By |2020-06-08T21:33:29+00:00May 22nd, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

We live in an increasingly divided world. Simple things like facts are no longer so simple. Misinformation abounds, spread by social media platforms, and reinforced by social bubbles and echo chambers. If you are married to someone whose political opinions are very different from your own, tensions can mount. Here are some things to think about if arguments over politics increasingly plague your marriage.  Values  An opinion is, "I like tea better than coffee." Values and core beliefs are far [...]

Tips for enjoying the holidays after divorce

By |2020-06-10T23:16:16+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

Holidays after a divorce are never the same as they were before. Your world, your children's world, and your ex's world is now different. Nonetheless, you and your family can still have happy holidays with a change of mindset and a few common-sense guidelines. Enjoy Your Time Together The traditions can remain, and some families may get together, even after a divorce, to share significant holidays. Ask yourself if it is possible to have holidays that are peaceful and enjoyable [...]

The Best Way To Decide On Whether Or Not To Divorce

By |2021-09-03T14:23:01+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, featured|

Why do most people get divorced?" Sometimes one spouse is indeed a bad person, but more often, it is a variation of 'the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.' People seeking a divorce have often tried many different things to fix their marriage or find fulfillment within it. Their last resort is usually divorce. They seek a divorce because they genuinely believe that things cannot be worse after a divorce than they were before. While this [...]

The Best Way To Help Your Children Through a Divorce

By |2020-06-09T20:22:28+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

For children, the family structure is their world. Without our guidance and support, a child may feel like that world is coming to an end. Here are some tips for helping your child during this difficult time.  Listen to them. Each child's concerns and feelings are unique. Talk to your child and help them to express their feelings and concerns. Give them opportunities for expression that go beyond just talking. Books about divorce written for children can be conversation openers. [...]

Should I Wait Until The Kids Are Older?

By |2020-08-25T21:52:37+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, featured|

Most mental health experts agree that children whose parents divorce while they are young seem to adapt to the divorce much better. After all, their “normal” is growing up with parents who live apart.    Compare that to a child who grows up in an intact household, only to learn one day that the home environment they have known their whole life is about to change.   A judge once chastised a father for moving another woman into the marital home after [...]

Why do we fight during divorce?

By |2020-06-11T22:49:51+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

In a divorce, the thing which takes up the most time, emotional energy, and money is fighting with our spouse over the divorce settlement. Rationally, everyone knows that calm and sensible discussions are more effective. So why do we get into towering arguments at all? Resources The reality, in any divorce, is that both spouses are going to need to divide everything: time with children, money, and property. That means that each person will walk away with less than they [...]

The Emotional Phases Of Divorces

By |2020-06-11T22:55:53+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

There are many emotions we experience while going through a divorce, and some of them can be difficult to understand. Most commonly, we think of feelings such as anger, stress, and anxiety.   Many of these emotions begin to make more sense when we start to think of them, not as individual emotions, but as parts of a larger emotional process: the grieving process. Even though we may recognize the need for a divorce, especially if the divorce is amicable, [...]

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