The Best Way to Protect Yourself – DON’T Hire a Lawyer

By |2021-07-21T18:44:33+00:00July 13th, 2021|Dealing With Divorce|

One of the first things you think about when you realize you’re getting divorced is how to protect yourself — emotionally and financially. Most people think the best way to do this is to hire a divorce attorney. Unfortunately, this usually accomplishes the exact opposite—it stokes conflict and puts your assets at risk. The Law Dictates More Than You Think The key thing to understand is that the division of assets and debts in a divorce is largely dictated [...]

Reaching Agreement With Bliss

By |2021-01-25T14:13:31+00:00August 20th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

Welcome to BlissDivorce! Throughout the various parts of your divorce journey, Bliss will ask you to propose divisions of assets, debts, obligations, and even your taxes. Here’s what to expect, and how to make the most of our modules and our mediators.    Your spouse will not see the divisions you propose. The divisions you propose along the way will all go directly to your mediator. Your spouse won’t see them. However, you should be thoughtful about what you propose. These [...]

Dividing Household Items

By |2021-01-25T14:13:31+00:00July 11th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, Divorce Process, Legal Issues|

Your household items are more than just things. They can represent memories, history, and even the marriage itself. Some people can say, "it's just stuff," and move forward. Others may not want physical reminders of their spouse going forward. However, many couples find dividing household items to be one of the most emotionally challenging facets of property division.    Here's what you need to know to make that process easier and simpler.  Household Items Are Community Property  With some exceptions, [...]

Proposing Divisions Your Spouse Will Accept

By |2020-08-24T00:23:31+00:00June 26th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, Divorce Process|

Whether you are working with attorneys or a mediator, hashing out a divorce agreement means bringing proposals for dividing your assets, debts, and tax obligations for your spouse to consider. In this process, it’s important to think about what your spouse will accept. Here are some tips for coming up with proposals. Saving Time In Mediation Creating a divorce agreement without going to court means finding a compromise that both you and your spouse can agree to. Your mediator is [...]

Disclosure: No, really! Disclose everything! 

By |2020-08-21T00:02:49+00:00June 26th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, Divorce Process|

With all this talk about community and separate property, you might be wondering, “do I really need to disclose everything? What if the account is just mine?”   Figuring out what needs to be disclosed and what doesn’t can seem complicated, but it’s not. The easy rule to remember is disclose everything.   Let’s say that Jen and John are getting divorced. They have a joint bank account like most couples, but Jen also has access to a bank account that she shares [...]

How to Explain Divorce to a 3-year old

By |2020-08-25T11:50:23+00:00May 22nd, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, featured|

It is daunting to explain the concept of divorce to a child who may not yet fully understand the idea of marriage, let alone divorce. Here are a few things you can do to make learning about divorce --and going through this transition-- easier on your child. Present a united front. It may be tempting to beat your spouse to the punch and tell your side of the story first, but this can make things harder for a child. While [...]

Do Politics Divide You?

By |2020-06-08T21:33:29+00:00May 22nd, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

We live in an increasingly divided world. Simple things like facts are no longer so simple. Misinformation abounds, spread by social media platforms, and reinforced by social bubbles and echo chambers. If you are married to someone whose political opinions are very different from your own, tensions can mount. Here are some things to think about if arguments over politics increasingly plague your marriage.  Values  An opinion is, "I like tea better than coffee." Values and core beliefs are far [...]

Tips for enjoying the holidays after divorce

By |2020-06-10T23:16:16+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

Holidays after a divorce are never the same as they were before. Your world, your children's world, and your ex's world is now different. Nonetheless, you and your family can still have happy holidays with a change of mindset and a few common-sense guidelines. Enjoy Your Time Together The traditions can remain, and some families may get together, even after a divorce, to share significant holidays. Ask yourself if it is possible to have holidays that are peaceful and enjoyable [...]

The Best Way To Decide On Whether Or Not To Divorce

By |2021-09-03T14:23:01+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, featured|

Why do most people get divorced?" Sometimes one spouse is indeed a bad person, but more often, it is a variation of 'the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.' People seeking a divorce have often tried many different things to fix their marriage or find fulfillment within it. Their last resort is usually divorce. They seek a divorce because they genuinely believe that things cannot be worse after a divorce than they were before. While this [...]

The Best Way To Help Your Children Through a Divorce

By |2020-06-09T20:22:28+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

For children, the family structure is their world. Without our guidance and support, a child may feel like that world is coming to an end. Here are some tips for helping your child during this difficult time.  Listen to them. Each child's concerns and feelings are unique. Talk to your child and help them to express their feelings and concerns. Give them opportunities for expression that go beyond just talking. Books about divorce written for children can be conversation openers. [...]

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