Divorce Process – Page 6

Proposing Divisions Your Spouse Will Accept

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T13:28:53+00:00June 26th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, Divorce Process|

Whether you are working with attorneys or a mediator, hashing out a divorce agreement means bringing proposals for dividing your assets, debts, and tax obligations for your spouse to consider. In this process, it’s important to think about what your spouse will accept. Here are some tips for coming up with proposals. Saving Time In Mediation Creating a divorce agreement without going to court means finding a compromise that both you and your spouse can agree to. Your [...]

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Disclosure: No, really! Disclose everything!

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T13:29:39+00:00June 26th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, Divorce Process|

With all this talk about community and separate property, you might be wondering, “do I really need to disclose everything? What if the account is just mine?” Figuring out what needs to be disclosed and what doesn’t can seem complicated, but it’s not. The easy rule to remember is disclose everything. Let’s say that Jen and John are getting divorced. They have a joint bank account like most couples, but Jen also has access to a bank account that she shares [...]

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Online Divorce: Can It Really Be That Easy?

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T14:22:03+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

In a divorce, there are a lot of logistics to work through. Every divorce is unique, and with emotions riding high, working with your spouse to end your marriage equitably can be very difficult. A trial is expensive. The less time you and your spouse can spend in front of a judge, the more money you will save. But mediators and lawyers can also cost a pretty penny. That's why more and more people are choosing to use online tools, [...]

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5 Tips to Help You Through Mediation

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T14:23:48+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

Tip 1. Be flexible and willing to prioritize. You probably know your spouse as well as anyone. Think about which approach will work in mediation. Does your spouse like to feel in charge? Do they love to win? If so, tell your mediator so you can perhaps find areas where you may have more flexibility and can give. There will also likely be areas that are more important to each of you and your mediator can help prioritize them. [...]

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What’s Worth Fighting Over (and what’s not)

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T14:25:06+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

Divorce is complicated. There are so, so many decisions to make. Every fight you have with your spouse requires an investment of your energy and money. It's essential to pick and choose your battles. Here is an exercise you can do right now to decide what is and isn't worth fighting over. Here is an activity you can do to help simplify the process of reaching an agreement with your spouse. Get some paper and a pen. Then, set [...]

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The Best Advice For Reaching Agreement on Custody Issues

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-17T16:13:39+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

We all care very deeply for our children, and as such, parenting decisions -- and deciding who has the power to make them -- are some of the most challenging issues to reach agreement on. The best advice is to simplify, prioritize, and delegate. Simplify. There would seem to be thousands of things to decide, but remember that these break down into just a few categories: residence, health, finances, education, and religion. These five simple categories cover most of the decisions. [...]

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The Top 3 Things To Consider in Your Post-Divorce Living Arrangements

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T14:31:08+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

After deciding to divorce, the vast majority of people are looking for a change of residence. Here are the three most important factors to consider. The settlement. If your residence is jointly owned, rather than being a rental, you may need to wait on moving out. Judges are unlikely to interfere with what is working. If you hope to get the house in a settlement, moving out may hurt your chances. Your kids. According to a study in [...]

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The Best Way To Serve Your Spouse With Divorce Papers

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T14:32:25+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

The divorce process starts the moment you begin to contemplate divorce. From that moment until you notify your spouse, there is a lot of guesswork to be done. Can this divorce be done collaboratively? How adversarial will you and your spouse be during this process? The decision to pursue a divorce is one you must make alone, and it cannot be reached collaboratively with your spouse. If you are still in a place where you want to talk through [...]

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Quick Tips for Sorting Custody over the Holidays

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-17T16:30:18+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

A painful reality of sharing custody of your children is that you will have to compromise on where they spend the most important days on your calendar. Here are some guidelines for reaching an agreement. Divide the Days. You may find that you and your spouse have different priorities when it comes to holidays. It may also be that you and your spouse have holidays that one of you celebrates and the other does not. Trade days that are important [...]

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