We all care very deeply for our children, and as such, parenting decisions — and deciding who has the power to make them — are some of the most challenging issues to reach agreement on. 

 

The best advice is to simplify, prioritize, and delegate

 

Simplify. There would seem to be thousands of things to decide, but remember that these break down into just a few categories: residence, health, finances, education, and religion. These five simple categories cover most of the decisions. 

 

Prioritize. Which of these areas is most important to you? Which do you care less about? Do you care about only some schooling decisions but not others? Knowing what you care less about can help you to identify what to fight for, and what not to. 

 

Delegate. Do you find dealing with doctors stressful and unpleasant? Do you want mainly want to make sure that your child doesn’t go to a certain kind of school, but care less about interviewing their teachers? It may be that your spouse actively wants to make decisions that you do not. Delegating to your spouse can be a useful tool for reaching an agreement.

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