How Will Infidelity Impact Your Divorce Settlement?

By |2020-06-12T00:09:10+00:00May 26th, 2020|Legal Issues|

Discovering that your spouse has been cheating can be a shocking revelation. If you've been cheated on, you might hope that a judge will set this injustice right. If you've been caught cheating, you may be wondering how it will impact your final divorce settlement. Here's what you need to know.  How Judges View Adultery  Remember, the judges handling divorce cases have heard countless stories about adultery. For better or worse, many judges have become desensitized to most of this—and [...]

Starting a Divorce

By |2020-06-12T00:09:58+00:00May 26th, 2020|Legal Issues|

Divorce is about division. The spouses are dividing one household into two. They are dividing their assets, time with their children, and their possessions. The first step is to take stock of what there is to divide.   In most states, the starting point for your divorce is the "domestic relations financial affidavit" (DRFA). The DRFA is a sworn statement attesting to your household finances. This can include: Income Assets Debts Liabilities Monthly expenses Take your time to make for [...]

Online Divorce: Can It Really Be That Easy?

By |2021-07-21T18:45:07+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

In a divorce, there are a lot of logistics to work through. Every divorce is unique, and with emotions riding high, working with your spouse to end your marriage equitably can be very difficult. A trial is expensive. The less time you and your spouse can spend in front of a judge, the more money you will save. But mediators and lawyers can also cost a pretty penny. That's why more and more people are choosing to use online tools, [...]

5 Tips to Help You Through Mediation

By |2021-07-21T18:43:43+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

Tip 1. Be flexible and willing to prioritize. You probably know your spouse as well as anyone. Think about which approach will work in mediation. Does your spouse like to feel in charge? Do they love to win? If so, tell your mediator so you can perhaps find areas where you may have more flexibility and can give. There will also likely be areas that are more important to each of you and your mediator can help prioritize them.   [...]

What’s Worth Fighting Over (and what’s not)

By |2020-06-11T22:28:46+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

Divorce is complicated. There are so, so many decisions to make. Every fight you have with your spouse requires an investment of your energy and money. It's essential to pick and choose your battles. Here is an exercise you can do right now to decide what is and isn't worth fighting over. Here is an activity you can do to help simplify the process of reaching an agreement with your spouse.   Get some paper and a pen. Then, set [...]

The Best Way To Serve Your Spouse With Divorce Papers

By |2020-06-10T22:43:56+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

The divorce process starts the moment you begin to contemplate divorce. From that moment until you notify your spouse, there is a lot of guesswork to be done. Can this divorce be done collaboratively? How adversarial will you and your spouse be during this process?     The decision to pursue a divorce is one you must make alone, and it cannot be reached collaboratively with your spouse. If you are still in a place where you want to talk through [...]

Will Seeking Therapy Hurt My Chances of Keeping My Children?

By |2020-06-11T22:33:58+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

Divorce is hard, and counseling can be a valuable tool for emotional and psychological wellness throughout the process. However, many parents worry that seeking the help of a counselor or therapist might hurt their chances of gaining custody.   The short answer is that no, seeking therapy or counseling will not harm your chances of winning custody.   Judges usually prefer that if someone is having a hard time with the process that they seek help on their own, without [...]

The Best Divorce Advice: Avoid Trial

By |2021-09-03T14:26:26+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

The best way to get divorced is as cheaply, painlessly, and as quickly as possible. Most people agree on this point. However, when the spouses seeking a divorce don't see eye-to-eye about what's fair, it can be tempting see trial as a way to settle your differences. The judge may not be the understanding person you imagined. They usually take a realist approach to divorce and are therefore more inclined to say, "Your marriage is over. Neither of you will [...]

The Advantages of Mediation

By |2020-08-25T11:04:35+00:00May 22nd, 2020|Divorce Process, featured|

Hashing out your divorce in court or with attorneys can be time-consuming, expensive, and stressful.   But is there an alternative? Can two people come together and reach an agreement about how to divide their household, even if they don’t always see eye-to-eye? You can—with mediation.   Agreeing To Mediation The first question many couples ask is: Do we have to be getting along to use mediation?   While getting along will make mediation easier, mediators are skilled at helping [...]

How Much Should I Be Paying For A Divorce Lawyer?

By |2020-09-07T02:08:26+00:00May 22nd, 2020|Divorce Process|

With new, collaborative divorce tools available, you may not need to hire a lawyer or go to court. If your divorce is likely to be contentious, and you anticipate going to court, competent legal counsel is essential. How much should you expect to pay? How do you know if a lawyer is right for you? Here are some things you should know before you begin your search for a lawyer.  Cost The cost for an attorney ranges from $100 to [...]

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