Proposing Divisions Your Spouse Will Accept

By |2020-08-24T00:23:31+00:00June 26th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, Divorce Process|

Whether you are working with attorneys or a mediator, hashing out a divorce agreement means bringing proposals for dividing your assets, debts, and tax obligations for your spouse to consider. In this process, it’s important to think about what your spouse will accept. Here are some tips for coming up with proposals. Saving Time In Mediation Creating a divorce agreement without going to court means finding a compromise that both you and your spouse can agree to. Your mediator is [...]

What’s Worth Fighting Over (and what’s not)

By |2020-06-11T22:28:46+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

Divorce is complicated. There are so, so many decisions to make. Every fight you have with your spouse requires an investment of your energy and money. It's essential to pick and choose your battles. Here is an exercise you can do right now to decide what is and isn't worth fighting over. Here is an activity you can do to help simplify the process of reaching an agreement with your spouse.   Get some paper and a pen. Then, set [...]

The Best Advice For Reaching Agreement on Custody Issues

By |2021-06-18T13:33:25+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

We all care very deeply for our children, and as such, parenting decisions -- and deciding who has the power to make them -- are some of the most challenging issues to reach agreement on.    The best advice is to simplify, prioritize, and delegate.    Simplify. There would seem to be thousands of things to decide, but remember that these break down into just a few categories: residence, health, finances, education, and religion. These five simple categories cover most of the decisions.  [...]

Do Politics Divide You?

By |2020-06-08T21:33:29+00:00May 22nd, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

We live in an increasingly divided world. Simple things like facts are no longer so simple. Misinformation abounds, spread by social media platforms, and reinforced by social bubbles and echo chambers. If you are married to someone whose political opinions are very different from your own, tensions can mount. Here are some things to think about if arguments over politics increasingly plague your marriage.  Values  An opinion is, "I like tea better than coffee." Values and core beliefs are far [...]

Tips for enjoying the holidays after divorce

By |2020-06-10T23:16:16+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

Holidays after a divorce are never the same as they were before. Your world, your children's world, and your ex's world is now different. Nonetheless, you and your family can still have happy holidays with a change of mindset and a few common-sense guidelines. Enjoy Your Time Together The traditions can remain, and some families may get together, even after a divorce, to share significant holidays. Ask yourself if it is possible to have holidays that are peaceful and enjoyable [...]

The Best Way To Decide On Whether Or Not To Divorce

By |2021-09-03T14:23:01+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, featured|

Why do most people get divorced?" Sometimes one spouse is indeed a bad person, but more often, it is a variation of 'the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.' People seeking a divorce have often tried many different things to fix their marriage or find fulfillment within it. Their last resort is usually divorce. They seek a divorce because they genuinely believe that things cannot be worse after a divorce than they were before. While this [...]

The Best Way To Help Your Children Through a Divorce

By |2020-06-09T20:22:28+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

For children, the family structure is their world. Without our guidance and support, a child may feel like that world is coming to an end. Here are some tips for helping your child during this difficult time.  Listen to them. Each child's concerns and feelings are unique. Talk to your child and help them to express their feelings and concerns. Give them opportunities for expression that go beyond just talking. Books about divorce written for children can be conversation openers. [...]

Why do we fight during divorce?

By |2020-06-11T22:49:51+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

In a divorce, the thing which takes up the most time, emotional energy, and money is fighting with our spouse over the divorce settlement. Rationally, everyone knows that calm and sensible discussions are more effective. So why do we get into towering arguments at all? Resources The reality, in any divorce, is that both spouses are going to need to divide everything: time with children, money, and property. That means that each person will walk away with less than they [...]

The Emotional Phases Of Divorces

By |2020-06-11T22:55:53+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

There are many emotions we experience while going through a divorce, and some of them can be difficult to understand. Most commonly, we think of feelings such as anger, stress, and anxiety.   Many of these emotions begin to make more sense when we start to think of them, not as individual emotions, but as parts of a larger emotional process: the grieving process. Even though we may recognize the need for a divorce, especially if the divorce is amicable, [...]

Six Best Ways To Enjoy Your First Father’s Day As A Single Dad

By |2020-06-03T17:02:33+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

I have seen my share of post-divorce problems and litigation. I believe these tips to be useful for children of divorce and for helping reduce litigation. Although some situations are unfortunately going to remain hostile, I hope these six tips will put you on the right path. Do not ignore your children's mother. Pretending that mom doesn't exist, even if only for the day, might be easy for you and help avoid awkward discussions, but it's not reality -– even [...]

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