Tips for enjoying the holidays after divorce

By |2020-06-10T23:16:16+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

Holidays after a divorce are never the same as they were before. Your world, your children's world, and your ex's world is now different. Nonetheless, you and your family can still have happy holidays with a change of mindset and a few common-sense guidelines. Enjoy Your Time Together The traditions can remain, and some families may get together, even after a divorce, to share significant holidays. Ask yourself if it is possible to have holidays that are peaceful and enjoyable [...]

The Best Way To Decide On Whether Or Not To Divorce

By |2021-09-03T14:23:01+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, featured|

Why do most people get divorced?" Sometimes one spouse is indeed a bad person, but more often, it is a variation of 'the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.' People seeking a divorce have often tried many different things to fix their marriage or find fulfillment within it. Their last resort is usually divorce. They seek a divorce because they genuinely believe that things cannot be worse after a divorce than they were before. While this [...]

The Best Way To Help Your Children Through a Divorce

By |2020-06-09T20:22:28+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

For children, the family structure is their world. Without our guidance and support, a child may feel like that world is coming to an end. Here are some tips for helping your child during this difficult time.  Listen to them. Each child's concerns and feelings are unique. Talk to your child and help them to express their feelings and concerns. Give them opportunities for expression that go beyond just talking. Books about divorce written for children can be conversation openers. [...]

Should I Wait Until The Kids Are Older?

By |2020-08-25T21:52:37+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, featured|

Most mental health experts agree that children whose parents divorce while they are young seem to adapt to the divorce much better. After all, their “normal” is growing up with parents who live apart.    Compare that to a child who grows up in an intact household, only to learn one day that the home environment they have known their whole life is about to change.   A judge once chastised a father for moving another woman into the marital home after [...]

The Emotional Phases Of Divorces

By |2020-06-11T22:55:53+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

There are many emotions we experience while going through a divorce, and some of them can be difficult to understand. Most commonly, we think of feelings such as anger, stress, and anxiety.   Many of these emotions begin to make more sense when we start to think of them, not as individual emotions, but as parts of a larger emotional process: the grieving process. Even though we may recognize the need for a divorce, especially if the divorce is amicable, [...]

Six Best Ways To Enjoy Your First Father’s Day As A Single Dad

By |2020-06-03T17:02:33+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

I have seen my share of post-divorce problems and litigation. I believe these tips to be useful for children of divorce and for helping reduce litigation. Although some situations are unfortunately going to remain hostile, I hope these six tips will put you on the right path. Do not ignore your children's mother. Pretending that mom doesn't exist, even if only for the day, might be easy for you and help avoid awkward discussions, but it's not reality -– even [...]

Why do we divorce?

By |2020-06-03T17:02:33+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

Everyone who has been through a divorce has a story about why it happened. Why does divorce happen, though?   In some cases, someone in the relationship is physically or otherwise abusive or just a bad person. Most of the time, however, divorces are the result of one side or both thinking that “the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.”   Certainly, we don’t divorce to get rich. Most often, the assets are divided in some [...]

After the final act: Directing your story of a fresh start after divorce

By |2020-06-11T23:10:29+00:00May 20th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

Divorce is an ordeal, emotionally, financially, and socially. As the process draws to a close, our minds turn to what comes next. Dating after divorce can be both exciting and a little intimidating. Will we find someone? Where do we even start?   The First Step is Healing After a divorce, practice self-compassion. Give yourself as much time as you need to heal. No matter how necessary the divorce was, many people still need to grieve. It’s not uncommon to [...]

The Top 6 Ways To Care For Yourself During Your Divorce

By |2020-06-11T23:16:47+00:00May 20th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

Even the most amicable divorce can take its toll on your emotional wellbeing. How much more so for those of us going through contentious ones! Add to that the stresses of work, caring for family and keeping up with the daily news cycle, and it can leave us feeling overwhelmed.    A clear head helps with negotiations. It can keep amicable divorces amicable and make the less amicable ones easier to manage. Maintaining your composure may even tilt the scales [...]

The Top 3 Questions to Consider When Getting a Divorce

By |2020-06-11T23:35:33+00:00May 12th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

  The decision to pursue a divorce can be very complicated and painful. You might be wondering if you should get a divorce, or if there is another way. These are the top three questions you should ask yourself when approaching this potentially life-changing decision.    How do I feel? The first step in exploring the possibility of divorce is to do some soul searching. How do you feel about your spouse? How do you feel about your relationship with [...]

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