Legal Separation and Divorce

By |2021-08-30T18:20:20+00:00August 20th, 2020|Divorce Process, Legal Issues|

There are many factors to consider when thinking about divorce. If you and your spouse are already thinking about living apart, but are considering legal separation as a next step, this article is for you. Here are some things to be aware of when making the decision. What Is “Legal Separation”? A couple can consider themselves separated as soon as they are sleeping in separate rooms. Legal separation, however, is different. In a legal separation, the two spouses remain married [...]

Dividing Household Items

By |2021-01-25T14:13:31+00:00July 11th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, Divorce Process, Legal Issues|

Your household items are more than just things. They can represent memories, history, and even the marriage itself. Some people can say, "it's just stuff," and move forward. Others may not want physical reminders of their spouse going forward. However, many couples find dividing household items to be one of the most emotionally challenging facets of property division.    Here's what you need to know to make that process easier and simpler.  Household Items Are Community Property  With some exceptions, [...]

Proposing Divisions Your Spouse Will Accept

By |2020-08-24T00:23:31+00:00June 26th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, Divorce Process|

Whether you are working with attorneys or a mediator, hashing out a divorce agreement means bringing proposals for dividing your assets, debts, and tax obligations for your spouse to consider. In this process, it’s important to think about what your spouse will accept. Here are some tips for coming up with proposals. Saving Time In Mediation Creating a divorce agreement without going to court means finding a compromise that both you and your spouse can agree to. Your mediator is [...]

What’s Worth Fighting Over (and what’s not)

By |2020-06-11T22:28:46+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

Divorce is complicated. There are so, so many decisions to make. Every fight you have with your spouse requires an investment of your energy and money. It's essential to pick and choose your battles. Here is an exercise you can do right now to decide what is and isn't worth fighting over. Here is an activity you can do to help simplify the process of reaching an agreement with your spouse.   Get some paper and a pen. Then, set [...]

The Best Advice For Reaching Agreement on Custody Issues

By |2021-06-18T13:33:25+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

We all care very deeply for our children, and as such, parenting decisions -- and deciding who has the power to make them -- are some of the most challenging issues to reach agreement on.    The best advice is to simplify, prioritize, and delegate.    Simplify. There would seem to be thousands of things to decide, but remember that these break down into just a few categories: residence, health, finances, education, and religion. These five simple categories cover most of the decisions.  [...]

The Best Divorce Advice: Avoid Trial

By |2021-09-03T14:26:26+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

The best way to get divorced is as cheaply, painlessly, and as quickly as possible. Most people agree on this point. However, when the spouses seeking a divorce don't see eye-to-eye about what's fair, it can be tempting see trial as a way to settle your differences. The judge may not be the understanding person you imagined. They usually take a realist approach to divorce and are therefore more inclined to say, "Your marriage is over. Neither of you will [...]

Why do we divorce?

By |2020-06-03T17:02:33+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

Everyone who has been through a divorce has a story about why it happened. Why does divorce happen, though?   In some cases, someone in the relationship is physically or otherwise abusive or just a bad person. Most of the time, however, divorces are the result of one side or both thinking that “the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.”   Certainly, we don’t divorce to get rich. Most often, the assets are divided in some [...]

After the final act: Directing your story of a fresh start after divorce

By |2020-06-11T23:10:29+00:00May 20th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

Divorce is an ordeal, emotionally, financially, and socially. As the process draws to a close, our minds turn to what comes next. Dating after divorce can be both exciting and a little intimidating. Will we find someone? Where do we even start?   The First Step is Healing After a divorce, practice self-compassion. Give yourself as much time as you need to heal. No matter how necessary the divorce was, many people still need to grieve. It’s not uncommon to [...]

The Top 6 Ways To Care For Yourself During Your Divorce

By |2020-06-11T23:16:47+00:00May 20th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

Even the most amicable divorce can take its toll on your emotional wellbeing. How much more so for those of us going through contentious ones! Add to that the stresses of work, caring for family and keeping up with the daily news cycle, and it can leave us feeling overwhelmed.    A clear head helps with negotiations. It can keep amicable divorces amicable and make the less amicable ones easier to manage. Maintaining your composure may even tilt the scales [...]

The Top Strategy For Winning In The Court Room

By |2020-06-11T23:33:56+00:00May 13th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

Going to trial can be quite expensive and stressful. If you find yourself going to trial, it's likely that you've already exhausted the less adversarial methods of settling, and you might feel exhausted.   Regardless of how you may feel, it's essential to put your best foot – and face – forward when you are appearing before a judge.   Many intangible factors can influence the decisions of a judge. These can include the way you dress, the way you [...]

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