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Quick Tips for Sorting Custody over the Holidays

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-17T16:30:18+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

A painful reality of sharing custody of your children is that you will have to compromise on where they spend the most important days on your calendar. Here are some guidelines for reaching an agreement. Divide the Days. You may find that you and your spouse have different priorities when it comes to holidays. It may also be that you and your spouse have holidays that one of you celebrates and the other does not. Trade days that are important [...]

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The Best Divorce Advice: Avoid Trial

By Randy M. Kessler, Esq.|2023-05-17T16:32:24+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

The best way to get divorced is as cheaply, painlessly, and as quickly as possible. Most people agree on this point. However, when the spouses seeking a divorce don't see eye-to-eye about what's fair, it can be tempting see trial as a way to settle your differences. The judge may not be the understanding person you imagined. They usually take a realist approach to divorce and are therefore more inclined to say, "Your marriage is over. Neither of you will [...]

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How to Explain Divorce to a 3-year old

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T15:02:37+00:00May 22nd, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, featured|

It is daunting to explain the concept of divorce to a child who may not yet fully understand the idea of marriage, let alone divorce. Here are a few things you can do to make learning about divorce --and going through this transition-- easier on your child. Present a united front. It may be tempting to beat your spouse to the punch and tell your side of the story first, but this can make things harder for a child. While [...]

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Do Politics Divide You?

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T15:04:32+00:00May 22nd, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

We live in an increasingly divided world. Simple things like facts are no longer so simple. Misinformation abounds, spread by social media platforms, and reinforced by social bubbles and echo chambers. If you are married to someone whose political opinions are very different from your own, tensions can mount. Here are some things to think about if arguments over politics increasingly plague your marriage. Source: shutterstock.com / Photo Contributor: wellphoto Values An opinion is, "I like tea better than coffee." [...]

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Tips for enjoying the holidays after divorce

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T15:06:14+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

Holidays after a divorce are never the same as they were before. Your world, your children's world, and your ex's world is now different. Nonetheless, you and your family can still have happy holidays with a change of mindset and a few common-sense guidelines. Source: shutterstock.com / Photo Contributor: Stock-Asso Enjoy Your Time Together The traditions can remain, and some families may get together, even after a divorce, to share significant holidays. Ask yourself if it is possible to have [...]

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The Best Way To Decide On Whether Or Not To Divorce

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-17T16:55:56+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, featured|

Why do most people get divorced?" Sometimes one spouse is indeed a bad person, but more often, it is a variation of 'the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.' People seeking a divorce have often tried many different things to fix their marriage or find fulfillment within it. Their last resort is usually divorce. They seek a divorce because they genuinely believe that things cannot be worse after a divorce than they were before. While this [...]

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The Best Way To Help Your Children Through a Divorce

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T15:24:50+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

For children, the family structure is their world. Without our guidance and support, a child may feel like that world is coming to an end. Here are some tips for helping your child during this difficult time. Source: shutterstock.com / Photo Contributor: Pixel-Shot Listen to them. Each child's concerns and feelings are unique. Talk to your child and help them to express their feelings and concerns. Give them opportunities for expression that go beyond just talking. Books about divorce written [...]

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Should I Wait Until The Kids Are Older?

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-17T17:12:35+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, featured|

Most mental health experts agree that children whose parents divorce while they are young seem to adapt to the divorce much better. After all, their “normal” is growing up with parents who live apart. Compare that to a child who grows up in an intact household, only to learn one day that the home environment they have known their whole life is about to change. A judge once chastised a father for moving another woman into the marital home after [...]

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Why do we fight during divorce?

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T15:26:20+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

In a divorce, the thing which takes up the most time, emotional energy, and money is fighting with our spouse over the divorce settlement. Rationally, everyone knows that calm and sensible discussions are more effective. So why do we get into towering arguments at all? Source: shutterstock.com / Photo Contributor: fizkes Resources The reality, in any divorce, is that both spouses are going to need to divide everything: time with children, money, and property. That means that each person will [...]

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The Emotional Phases Of Divorces

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T15:29:00+00:00May 21st, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

There are many emotions we experience while going through a divorce, and some of them can be difficult to understand. Most commonly, we think of feelings such as anger, stress, and anxiety. Many of these emotions begin to make more sense when we start to think of them, not as individual emotions, but as parts of a larger emotional process: the grieving process. Even though we may recognize the need for a divorce, especially if the divorce is amicable, [...]

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